It's art, and it comes when it comes.
At the risk of sounding pretentious (who, me?
) as long as you put as much passion as you can muster into what you do, it will end up good from someone's point of view. Obviously with a full-time job and a child to bring up your time is limited, but think of it as a canvas... even if you only get to put down a brush stroke a day, as long as you put as much of yourself into it as you can give - it'll be worth it.
Don't stress the production side of it, for a start... the reason that so much trance sounds like generic cobblers at the moment is because poeple are focusing far too hard on 'how does it sound?' to the detriment of 'how does it feel to listen to?'.
At the moment, I'm doing more in the way of guitar-driven stuff than electronic music, partially because I'd been letting my playing go fallow and partially because I'd spent almost all of the last two years concentrating so hard on getting a technically 'good' (subjective at the best of times) sound that I'd forgotten how good it feels to just sit down and
play - as a result of this I've been coming up with melodic ideas left, right and centre, and importantly, having fun doing it.
Also for the first time in a while I've been able to listen to trance in context and enjoy it, as opposed to obsessively analysing it (which led to me starting to get pissed off with trance).
Once you've found a way to be creative while having fun, the tunes sort of write themselves - especially if you take Ott and Posford's advice about building a sound library when you're feeling in a creative mood.
Don't sweat it - if you build it, they will come!
J.